A lot of people think that Aspergers Syndrome is just a “children’s disease” – uh, no. Aspergers and adults are a bit like air and a tire. Just because the tire seems a little bit less full of air, doesn’t mean the air has gone away. Okay, that reference was a little off. Or maybe I’m just full of hot air.
I could say a lot of things about Aspergers and adults. I could say that no, autism of any kind is not necessarily lethal when you turn 18, or 21… or 27, so far as I’ve personally scouted out. When it comes to Aspergers and adults, a pretty significant part of the world (including a decent amount of the health community) thinks that something spontaneously changes between being an aspie child and attaining the age of majority.
A whole lot of pixels have been sacrificed to talking about how much we Aspies are nothing but whiny little wastes of skin – and unfortunately, some of us really do make the rest look pretty bad. After all, there are just too many people out there who use any excuse they can get away with to justify acting like total douches.
The biggest problem with Aspergers and adults is remembering that being an adult doesn’t just come from being physically “full grown,” or from having attained a certain number of years. We have to actually act like adults… and take responsibility for how we handle ourselves. Chris Chan (who insults my first name by sharing it) may be about the same age as I am, but he hardly fits my definition of an adult.
For one thing, being able to control your temper is a pretty nice way to act a little more grown up. And it really isn’t even that hard, when you stop taking things so freaking personally. The biggest thing about Aspergers and adults is that we need to hold ourselves responsible for what we do, and how we relate to other people.